The Art of Everyday Assertiveness

Become Strong Willed and Stop People Pleasing

Contents:

Introduction.

Part 1.

Assertiveness and the Basics of Behavior

Chapter One

Personality, Behavior, and Conflict Resolution Styles

Personality and Behavior

Myths About Assertiveness

Chapter Two.

Tag You’re It!: Strong Characteristics of the Non-Assertive Person

Chapter Three

A Bouquet of Wallflowers: Why We Find It Hard to be Assertive.

Myth 1: I don’t deserve what I am asking for

Myth 2: Asking for help is weak, pushy or rude

Myth 3: I have to know someone will say yes before I ask for something or if they say no it will kill me.

Myth 4: If I ask for something or say no, I can’t stand it if someone gets upset with me.

Myth 5: Saying no is selfish.

Myth 6: If I don’t have what I want or need, it doesn’t make a difference.

The Gender Factor

The Personal Bill of Assertive Rights.

Chapter Four

The Little League: Different Types of Non-Assertive People.

People Pleasing Penny

Codependent Cole.

Low Self-Esteem Steve.

Agreeable Agnes.

Part 2

The Art of Everyday Assertiveness.

Chapter Five

The Basics of Assertiveness.

Chapter Six

DEAR MAN: The Seven Pillars of Assertiveness

D—Describe

E—Express

A—Assert

R—Reinforce

M—Mindfulness

A—Appear Confident

N—Negotiate

Chapter Seven

Social Media Assertiveness

1. Hone Assertiveness in Real Life

2.     Believe in Yourself

3.     Be Different but Authentic

4.     Ignore Negativities

5.     Pick your Battles

6.     Draw Your Lines

7.     Regulate What You Share

8.     No Misery Porn Allowed

9.     Don’t Make Excuses for Being You

Chapter Eight

The Untouchables: How to be Assertive in Your Personal Relationships

Chapter Nine

How to Be Assertive at Work—and Not Lose Your Job

Know Your Worth

Ask for your worth

Reinforcement

Foreshadowing

Express yourself in a positive way

Play the “What If” Game

Beware the Honeymoon Stage

Framing Effect

There is time for everything

Summary

Conclusion